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More Simple Ways To Practice Mindfulness                                                 [Happiness and Well-Being, Part 10] by Audrey Berger, Ph.D.

“Give yourself permission to allow this moment to be exactly as it is, and allow yourself to be exactly as you are.” ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn

A Review Of The Basics: As we discussed last time (Happiness and Well-Being, Part 9), mindfulness meditation is a specific way of paying close attention to moment-to-moment experience, without judging or trying to alter the experience in any way. Mindfulness skills take time to develop, and when first learning mindfulness, expect your mind to wander a significant portion of the time. But, with practice your concentration will improve.

Begin a mindfulness meditation by selecting an object for focus, such as concentrating on the sensations in your nose or your abdomen as you inhale and exhale. Once you have established concentration, you can begin to widen your focus to include your sensations, thoughts and/or emotions. As you do this, you may find yourself noticing things that you might ordinarily overlook. The goal is to notice them without judging, accepting or rejecting them: just acknowledge your experiences with an attitude of curiosity, and then allow them to pass. As you practice mindfulness meditation, you may begin to recognize that all thoughts, emotions and sensations are temporary. While meditating, if you find yourself latching onto particular experiences, or thinking about the past or future, you can return to the present moment by once again focusing on your breathing.


Body Scan: This approach to mindfulness practice involves simply noticing the sensations in different areas of your body.  Begin at the top of your head, and slowly and methodically work your way down to your toes. Notice the sensations in each area as you scan, and just allow those sensations to pass. Do not attempt to relax or tense your muscles. If you are drawn to scratch an itch or shift position to get more comfortable, try instead to just notice it and let the sensation pass. The goal is to become more aware and accepting of your experience, not to change it.

Attending to External Stimuli: Anything you can perceive may be used as a platform for mindfulness meditation. As with other approaches to mindfulness, try to simply notice your sensations with an attitude of curiosity, and then allow them to pass. You can focus on any of external stimuli impacting your senses, or you can choose to concentrate on one specific type of sensation. Practicing mindfulness of external stimuli can help you to become less reactive to them.

Awareness of Emotions: In this type of practice, you simply notice and name your emotions, allowing them to pass without judgment. Part of the purpose of doing this is to begin to recognize that emotions – even painful emotions – come and go, and don’t last forever. When choosing mental events as the object of meditation, resist the temptation to analyze your thoughts and feelings. By building your capacity to notice and experience thoughts and feelings as they come and go, you can diminish your reactivity and enhance your ability to tolerate difficult experiences and painful emotions.

Cultivating The Skill Of Nonjudgmental Awareness: Sometimes people find the goal of nonjudgmental awareness to be elusive because self-judgment can be a deeply ingrained habit. If you find it difficult to suspend self-judgment during meditation, here are a few strategies that can help:

Meditating on self-judgment: Begin by focusing on your breath for a few minutes. Then shift your focus to watching your thoughts, and whenever you notice a judgmental thought, just silently say “judging,” and then return to watching your thoughts.

Loving-kindness meditation: This approach also begins by focusing on the breath,  and then shifts to silently repeating a mantra such as “may I be happy, may I be peaceful, may I be free from suffering,” or “may I accept whatever comes,” and/or other similar mantras. After you get comfortable with directing a loving-kindness meditation toward yourself, you can then expand it to include others.

Using imagery: Another way to avoid latching onto judgmental thoughts during mindfulness meditation is to utilize “letting go” imagery. Begin by focusing on your breath, and then widen your focus to include your thoughts. As you begin to focus on your thoughts, instead of simply noticing them, imagine that your thoughts are bubbles in a stream and watch as they appear and disappear. (Any visual metaphor that similarly depicts the concept of impermanence can be substituted.)

The forgoing techniques are just a small sampling of some basic ways to begin to practice mindfulness meditation. Since these descriptions are necessarily very succinct, you may wish to get more detailed descriptions of these strategies by looking at one or more of the suggested readings below. In addition, if you want to more fully experience the large array of benefits that mindfulness meditation can bring, you will need to learn more about it by either taking classes, finding a mentor, and/or seeking out additional resources on the topic. You can also download guided meditations from the web (e.g. http://www.mindfulness-solution.com/DownloadMeditations.html).  No matter how you choose to learn about mindfulness meditation, if you are willing to make a commitment, invest time and energy, and practice on a regular basis, mindfulness can have a powerful positive impact on your happiness and well-being.

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Hanh, T. N. (1991). Peace is every step: The path of mindfulness in everyday life. New York, NY: Bantam Books.

Hanh, T. N. (2012-02-07). The art of mindfulness. [Kindle Edition] Retrieved from Amazon.com.

Goleman, Daniel (2011-04-12). The brain and emotional intelligence: New insights. More Than Sound LLC. [Kindle Edition] Retrieved from Amazon.com.

Kabat-Zinn, J. (1990) Full catastrophe living: Using the wisdom of your body and mind to face stress, pain and illness. New York, NY: Dell Publishing.

Kabat-Zinn, J. (2012 ) Mindfulness for beginners: Reclaiming the present moment and your life. Boulder, CO.: Sounds True, Inc.

Mingyur Rinpoche, Yongey (2007). The joy of living: Unlocking the secret and science of happiness. New York, NY: Harmony Books.

Siegel, R. D. (2009) The mindfulness solution: Everyday practices for everyday problems. Guilford Publications [Kindle Edition]. Retrieved from Amazon.com.


If you haven’t yet read the nine previous posts in this series, click on the links below so you can learn more about Happiness and Well-Being:

Happiness & Well-Being, Part 1: Can You Make Yourself Happier?                                            Happiness & Well-Being, Part 2: Developing Happiness Habits                                                       Happiness & Well-Being, Part 3: Rewire Your Brain for Happiness
Happiness & Well-Being, Part 4: Cultivating Optimism                                                                      Happiness & Well-Being, Part 5: Overcoming Pessimism and Self-Criticism                               Happiness & Well-Being, Part 6: Developing A Growth Mindset                                                 Happiness & Well-Being, Part 7: Savoring                                                                                        Happiness & Well-Being, Part 8: Positive Reminiscence                                                               Happiness & Well-Being, Part 9: Mindfulness


“More Simple Ways to Practice Mindfulness Meditation” by Audrey Berger, Ph.D. was originally published on the Transition Network website.


[HAPPINESS AND WELL-BEING, PART 8]  by Audrey Berger, Ph.D.                                                                                                      “Pleasure is the flower that passes; remembrance, the lasting perfume.” ~ Jean de Boufflers  Have you ever noticed how much happiness you can experience by simply thinking about a special memory in your life?  Many studies have found that savoring positive memories is a powerful way to promote and strengthen positive feelings in the present, especially for older adults. Positive memories can bring us joy, and they can even help us to cope with, and recover from, some of the difficulties that we all encounter in life. Fortunately, no matter what challenges we currently face in our lives, we all have within us the ability to transport ourselves to another time and place.

Research has shown that by recalling times when we felt truly happy, we are able to experience those same feelings again – sometimes even with the same intensity that we felt during the original event. Possibly because positive reminiscence is a relatively simple and accessible way to promote happiness in the moment, some studies that have found that the more time people spend remembering positive events from the past, the more they tend to enjoy the present. Some researchers have even been reported that positive reminiscence contributes to increased self-esteem and greater optimism about the future.

A number of studies have identified some things that can help to fine-tune the process of positive reminiscence. Taking mental snapshots of positive events as they occur, and memorizing the details, facilitates future recall of your happy experiences; as pleasurable as it can be to collect and save memorabilia, it turns out that simply bringing positive memories to mind is a more effective way to promote happiness. Also, when engaging in positive reminiscence, it is best to stay emotion-focused, since analyzing positive emotions has been shown to detract from the experience.

 Although remembering happy times doesn’t require any special strategies, there are a number of structured positive reminiscence activities that are worth your consideration. Over and above the fact that these activities can be quite enjoyable, they can also help to strengthen your brain wiring for positive emotions, enhance your resilience, and facilitate your overall happiness and well-being.


Make a list of your happy memories: This list can include both special events from your life as well as any generally happy experience you are able to recall. Set aside time to select and recall the individual items on your list, and in each instance, bring to mind as many details as you can. Immerse yourself in the memory, and pay close attention to the feelings you experience.

Share Memories: Research has found that reminiscing with others about a shared memory is especially likely to evoke strong positive emotions (e.g. joy, accomplishment, amusement, contentment and pride), particularly as we get older. This can, of course, be done informally, but there is also a more formal approach that you can try. In the structured version of this activity, you and a friend each make a list of 3 -5 of your own happiest experiences. Then take turns sharing those memories with one another. As you describe a specific memory, include the following details: where you were; what was happening; what you were doing; who else was there; what made it such a memorable and positive experience; how you felt at the time; and how you feel now as you recall it. Try to really picture the experience and savor the memories. When you are the listener, help your partner savor their memories by paying close attention and asking questions that will help to enrich the experience for them.

Work with specific positive emotions: Instead of making a list of positive memories, you can begin by working with specific positive emotions. For this activity, choose a specific positive emotion, and then generate a list of times when you remember experiencing that emotion. Think of as many instances as you can, and for each instance, include as many details as you can recall. Your positive emotions portfolio can evolve over time, as you remember more experiences, and as you have new experiences that you would like to remember later.

If you have chosen to focus on one specific emotion for this positive reminiscence strategy, consider repeating it for a variety of positive emotions. If you proceed in this manner, you can then create resource boxes (or, if you prefer, computer folders) for different positive emotions. Linger over the process of creating these boxes/folders and use it as an opportunity to really savor each emotion and the associated memories. In each box or computer folder, include anything that can serve as a trigger for a particular positive emotion: photos, songs, written descriptions, letters, etc. Savor new positive experiences as well, and then integrate descriptions, photos or other mementos of these new experiences into the resource box/folder you created for the associated emotion. After a while you will have a wonderful array of resources for different positive emotions, which will be available to you whenever you wish.

Accomplishment Savoring – Think back over the years of your life, and make a list of things you’ve achieved. To facilitate recall of your achievements, it may help to generate a separate list of your achievements for each decade of your life. Include both large and small achievements. Include items that are meaningful to you, regardless of whether they would be seen the same way by others. What makes you proud of this accomplishment? What positive feelings do you have now, looking back on it? Who else was involved? What setbacks or challenges did you have to overcome? What skills and abilities did you use?



Audrey Berger, Ph.D. has been a life coach, psychologist and psychotherapist for 33 years. In her life coaching practice she specializes in mid and later life transitions such as retirement, empty nest, midlife transition, positive aging in general, and creating a new life after divorce/loss. She also works with an array of other life issues and goals, including helping couples to create the relationship they want. You can learn more about her life coaching services, and find out about receiving a complimentary coaching consultation, at www.turningpointlifecoaching.com. Audrey can be reached at: info@turningpointlifecoaching.com or at (585)292-0095.


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 If you haven’t yet read the seven previous posts in this series, click on the links below so you can learn more about Happiness and Well-Being:

Happiness and Well-Being, Part 1: Can You Make Yourself Happier?                                            Happiness and Well-Being, Part 2: Developing Happiness Habits                                             Happiness and Well-Being, Part 3: Rewire Your Brain for Happiness
Happiness and Well-Being, Part 4: Cultivating Optimism                                                                Happiness and Well-Being, Part 5: Overcoming Pessimism and Self-Criticism                          Happiness and Well-Being, Part 6: Developing A Growth Mindset                                         Happiness and Well-Being, Part 7: Savoring

“Positive Reminiscence” by Audrey Berger, Ph.D. was originally published on the Transition Network website.